This week on Here After with Megan Devine:
Sometimes loss is freedom: a conversation with Rebecca Woolf
What if you were just about to get divorced, but your partner gets sick? Like really sick?
Rebecca Woolf was just about to leave an unhappy marriage when her husband got sick and died. What followed was a crash course in performative grief, and the dismantling of one life in order to build the next. In this episode, we cover love, sex, marriage, divorce, grief, shame, assumptions (both internal and external), and personal agency – it’s QUITE the conversation. Sensitivity note: this episode contains the F word, and references sex.
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In this episode we cover:
- The conventions of marriage and grief that trap people in inauthentic versions of themselves
- How you can love someone AND be relieved they’re dead
- Why everyone has an opinion about how soon is too soon to date, have sex, or otherwise live your life after someone dies
- Grieving the time you lost living someone else’s life
- Building your own “house of hope,” according to your own desires
About our guest: Rebecca Woolf has worked as a writer since her teens – it’s the way she understands both herself and the world. Her essays have appeared on Refinery29, HuffPost, Parenting, and more. She currently authors the bi-weekly column Sex & the Single Mom on romper.com. Her latest book, All of This: a Memoir of Death and Desire, hits the shelves last month.
Find her on IG @rebeccawooolf (with three o’s) and at rebeccawoolf.com
It can be hard to find information about grieving the loss of a complicated relationship (an abusive parent, or an estranged partner, for example). Check out this post on grieving people you didn’t always like.
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