This week on It’s OK that You’re Not OK:
Live each day like it’s your first:
with Alua Arthur
What would a meaningful life look like for you?
According to Death Doula Alua Arthur, conversations about death can be the most enriching conversations we have. It’s not about accepting death, or avoiding grief – it’s about building a relationship with yourself and others that doesn’t hold anything back.
Why should you listen? Yeah, because you’re mortal and one day you’ll die, but more importantly: because one day, hopefully in the far off future, you’ll look back at this life you’ve lived. Conversations about death can make that life so much better.
7 things you’ll learn in this episode:
- What’s a Death Doula?
- Does being honest about death give you access to joy?
- Should you tell someone that they’re dying, or does that remove hope?
- Why living each day like it’s your last is unrealistic (and what to do instead)
- Should you reach for a “meaningful life”?
- Why hope sets you up for disappointment – and why hope is dangerous at end of life
- The linking of death and grief: Death and grief are married, but grief definitely dates around.
Related episodes:
Trauma Surgeon Dr. Red Hoffman on the surprisingly broad umbrella of palliative care
About our guest:
Alua Arthur is a Death Doula, recovering attorney, and the founder of Going with Grace, a Death Doula training and end-of-life planning organization that exists to support people as they answer the question, “What must I do to be at peace with myself so that I may live presently and die gracefully?” She’s been featured in the LA Times, Vogue, Refinery29, The Doctors, and alongside (what’s that guy’s name?) in (that tv show she did).
Find her at goingwithgrace.com and on Instagram @going_with_grace
Additional resources:
- Going with Grace
- Megan mentions this book – Pronoia Is the Antidote for Paranoia
- Check out Megan’s best-selling books – It’s OK That You’re Not OK and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed
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