We’ve been talking a lot about how hard the holiday season is when you’re grieving. Earlier this week, I shared the new comic artist Brittany Bilyeu made – showcasing the things people in the Writing Your Grief alumni community most wanted others to know about the realities of grief, and how friends and family could help.
I’ll be on Sounds True’s facebook page tomorrow, Decmeber 19th, to answer your questions about grief and the holidays. Please join us, whehter you’re grieving, or hoping to support someone who is. If you can’t make the live Q&A session, be sure to visit the Sounds True page to watch the recording.
And last week, I spoke with KATU’s AM Northwest host Helen Raptis about the special challenge of the holiday season for grieving people. Here’s my conversation with Helen – including Helen’s realization that the grocery store is a really difficult place for grievers!
Thank you for addressing the grocery store issue Megan. It was several days before my husbands funeral when I asked my older brother to drive me to Bed Bath and Beyond get coffee, as I was sure people would return to the house afterward. Which they did.
I asked him because I was frightened to be in a store and to have to make a decision alone.
When I did made my first trip to our local grocery store alone, I checked out with a few things but was so overcome with despair at not being able to “buy as ususal” I just left, went to the car and cried.
Even 5 months later, I see triggers and just need to leave. In myhead, I hear the words “Gotta go!” So I do. A very good friend
told me not too long ago “Bett, go with your gut. You’ve always had a good one. Which is why I value your opinion.”
I’m trying to follow that advice through the many facets of this turbulent ride. It may help on occasion. Or not.
Gotta try.