Grief made me find comfort in dark humor. Am I normal?

Grief affects so many things – including your sense of humor. Are you normal if you now find comfort in dark humor?

Finding comfort in dark humor is #perfectlynormal in grief.

This one often comes as a surprise to non-grieving people, as though having a sense of humor isn’t possible after loss. But for many grieving folx, sometimes dark humor is the only possible response. Those who’ve taken the Writing Your Grief course can attest to the fact that dark grief humor is par for the course.

How about you? How has grief affected your sense of humor? The more we talk about this stuff, the more we tell the truth about what grief is really like, the more people realize they’re not alone.

Grief is hard. It impacts every aspect of life, big and small. There are so many things grieving people experience, things they do or don’t do, that they (or the outside world) might think are unusual or weird, but are actually perfectly normal. You aren’t weird. You’re grieving.

The problem is, people often don’t realize they’re normal until they discover they aren’t alone in feeling a certain way or doing a particular thing. And feeling alone makes grief even harder than it already is.

Because it’s such a relief to find out we’re not alone, we’re creating a series of posts acknowledging as many of those things as we can, one #perfectlynormal thing at a time.

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