Grief made start counting the days on the calendar. Am I normal?

Grief affects so many things – including how you keep track of time since your loss. Has this happened to you?

Counting each passing day on the calendar is #perfectlynormal in grief.

Marking time takes on a whole new significance after loss. Keeping track of exactly how many days it has been since their death or the last time you saw them or the last time you spoke with them or…you name it. Counting days, weeks, months, and years, and feeling like you always happen to note the return of a personally significant time of a day are all normal in grief. And so is having no idea what day it is in the first place.

How about you? How do you experience the passage of time? Are you keeping track or ignoring the calendar altogether? The more we talk about this stuff, the more we tell the truth about what grief is really like, the more people realize they’re not alone.

Grief is hard. It impacts every aspect of life, big and small. There are so many things grieving people experience, things they do or don’t do, that they (or the outside world) might think are unusual or weird, but are actually perfectly normal. You aren’t weird. You’re grieving.

The problem is, people often don’t realize they’re normal until they discover they aren’t alone in feeling a certain way or doing a particular thing. And feeling alone makes grief even harder than it already is.

Because it’s such a relief to find out we’re not alone, we’re creating a series of posts acknowledging as many of those things as we can, one #perfectlynormal thing at a time.

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