Helping a Grieving Friend

What’s the best way to help a grieving friend – give them advice? Cheer them up? Remind them that life is for the living?

Ack! No!

It’s so hard to know what to do when your friends are hurting. The thing is, you can’t cheer someone up by telling them to look on the bright side, or by giving them advice. It just doesn’t work. Watch this video to learn the one thing that will improve all of your “I’m here for you” intentions, and be that supportive friend you most want to be.

(Note: subtitles are available in Spanish, French, Arabic, and English. Click the gear icon at the bottom of the video frame for subtitle and closed caption options)


Watch it, then share the video far and wide, on all your favorite platforms (be sure to tag @refugeingrief so we can see!). Working together, we can help everyone learn the skills they need to be kind, supportive, and amazing. Want more cool ways to change the whole culture into a sleek, compassionate love-machine? Join the Grief Revolution over here.

How to help a grieving friend: the animated edition. You can't jolly someone out of their pain with a barrage of rainbows. Try this instead. Click To Tweet


And remember to check out the monthly Writing Your Grief courses – it’s the best place I know to be seen and heard inside your grief. We’ve got room for you.


How about you? Are you more often the bunny or the bear in this scenario? In what ways do you practice acknowledging someone else’s pain – or your own? Let us know in the comments.