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Are the holidays over yet?
This season is almost over. I promise. Just a few more weeks to go. Big hurdles, yes. And then they will be over. So many different traditions with so many different holidays stuffed into these last two months. And an ongoing global pandemic throughout it all. Whether or not you acknowledge any…
Grief Impacts Appetite
There is no “normal” appetite in grief. Some people eat under stress; some people lose all interest in food. When you stop eating because food is nauseating, or eat constantly because you need something to do, your body has to work harder to stay level and grounded. That said, I know there’s not always a…
It’s hard to feel thankful when you’re grieving
Here it is, the 4th Thursday in November. Thanksgiving can be the hardest holiday of the bunch. It’s centered on community and gratitude and all of it seems to highlight the empty place at the table – even if those big gatherings aren’t happening this year because of the ongoing pandemic. Let’s take gratitude…
Grief Impacts Dreams & Nightmares
Though sleep is even more decessary during intense grief than it is at other times, nightmares about your loss can make sleep something you’d rather avoid. Dream-state sleep is when our minds do the deep, heavy work of breaking down the reality of loss into absorbable pieces. Recurrent dreams and nightmares don’t bring solutions or…
Grief is Brutal and Beautiful
Grief is so brutal. And sometimes, there’s beauty right alongside all the awful things. This story is about one of those times something beautiful sat alongside the intensity of grief. Be sure to click through the hear it: it’s an audio story. This audio clip below is the first part of the story. It’s from…
Biden’s super power: not turning away from grief
The US just elected a person who lost his wife and daughter to a car accident, and then years later, his son, to cancer. He’s also familiar with addiction and recovery. Our VP elect is *quite* familiar with misogyny and racism – all things that impact, influence, create, and flow from loss. As all of…
Grief Impacts Sleep
Sleep—getting too much or too little—is a big thing inside grief. Especially in the early days (define early for yourself), grief often seems to have its own sleep schedule. Sleep is a time of restoration for the body, and it’s always the first place to look for improvement or comfort when things are completely falling…