What Chrissy Teigen’s Public Grief Shaming Says About Our Culture—And How Far We Have To Go

In our own little world here – where we acknowledge and respect all grief – it can be easy to think the work is done. People know that grief is normal and healthy; that just because it’s painful doesn’t mean it’s “wrong.”

But all it takes is one quick glance at the way Chrissy Teigen is being shamed and harassed for her loss to know we have a long, long, long way to go in the ways we talk about grief. Hell, not even grief: we have a long way to go in how we talk to other human beings. Human decency and kindness is a rarity unless we make it otherwise.

My lovely people, if you’re out and about on social media or comment threads today and you see people shaming grief and/or shaming the Teigen family, speak up. Do some guerrilla educating. The only way we change the culture is through education and example.

And btw, if you look at the posts the Teigen family has shared and think, “she shouldn’t do that!” then please: check yourself. Just because *you* wouldn’t do something doesn’t mean other people shouldn’t. Every loss is valid. Every expression of loss is valid.

Each person is the boss of their own life.

Just because *you* wouldn't do something doesn't mean other people shouldn't. Every loss is valid. Every expression of loss is valid. Click To Tweet

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