Some things cannot be fixed. But they can be carried.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is the book I’ve been waiting for for 30 years—the one I can recommend to any newly bereaved parent, widow, widower, or adult grieving a death.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a permission slip to feel what you feel, do what you do, and say what you say, when life finds you in a place of profound loss and the world seems hell-bent on telling you the right way to get back to being the person you’ll never again be.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a wise and necessary book. Megan Devine offers a loving, holistic, and honest vision of what it means to ‘companion each other inside what hurts.’
Our current cultural norms surrounding death render us incapable of dealing with grief authentically and result in unknowingly causing more hurt and suffering to not only our- selves, but the people we care about most. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is the perfect how-to manual to help heal and support ourselves, each other, and our death-avoidant society.
Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to “solve” grief. Megan writes, “Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution.” Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face—in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you’ll learn:
- Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
- How challenging the myths of grief—doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold—allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
- Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to “fix” your pain
- How to help the people you love—with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. Order your copy now.
Get Megan’s new guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed, available now! It builds on the exercises and tools in It’s OK, plus all new material. Both together make a great gift for a grieving friend or family member. Click here for details.
More About Megan Devine
Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.
Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It’s OK that You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand, and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed: a journal for grief.
Megan’s work is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and The Atlantic. She’s a sought after expert when grief erupts in the public sphere. Find her in the PBS documentary Speaking Grief, and in the new podcast, Here After with Megan Devine. For clinical training and resources for healthcare workers, visit us here.
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Gun violence, terrorism, severe weather events, and community-wide accidents aren’t new, but we’re certainly experiencing these with new intensity. Join Sounds True and the entire RIG team in donating cases of the book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, to communities reeling from large-scale loss and grief. So far, we’ve sent hundreds of books to communities in the US and around the world. Together, we can do more.
In the face of such widespread grief, it’s hard to know what to do. In addition to writing your elected officials, giving blood, and advocating for change in your chosen arenas, you can help the RIG team deliver grief support directly to communities affected by violence or disaster. Donate to the #disasteroutreach fund by clicking the button below. You’ll have a chance to tell us where you’d like your donation allocated – to the book fund, or to the RIG scholarship fund – when you check out.
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