How To Carry cover shadow

How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed

A Journal for Grief Unlike Any Other.

Building on her best selling book It’s OK that You’re Not OK, Megan Devine brings you her illustrated guided journal, 

How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed.

Washington Post
Psyc today
Chicago tribune
Womens health logo
Yoga journal logo
The Guardian logo
The Atlantic logo
Stanford logo
SELF magazine logo
Parents logo
Oprah daily logo
LA Times logo
Harvard Business Review logo
GQ logo
Fortune logo
Cognoscenti logo
CBS logo
Brain Pickings logo
APMs Marketplace logo
Bustle logo
JOURNAL book detail under the lead video 50 50 Desktop

Telling the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act.

This journal contains no clichés, timetables, or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move on” or put your loss behind you. Instead, you’ll find encouragement, self-care exercises, and daily tools to help you manage and explore your grief. Just as with It’s OK that You’re Not OK, this interactive journal has handy tools to help educate friends and family on how best to support you in your grief.

Megan Devine

Psychotherapist Megan Devine became one of the most trusted experts on grief the hard way: by surviving sudden, accidental death. She's recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief, with millions of people gaining insight - and skills! - through her books, social media, viral videos, consultancy work, and her podcast, It's OK that You're Not OK. Her work has appeared in GQ, Harvard Business Review, Washington Post, New York Times, Stanford University, Marketplace, and in the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.

GREAT insight to understanding why we feel what we feel when someone passes away. Gave as a gift and feedback was that it REALLY helped them pull through a VERY tough time. -


I highly recommend "How to Carry what can't be Fixed" for anyone stuck in that labyrinth of grief. You won't be fixed, but you will learn more about yourself and offer some blessed relief from your own hamster brain of pain.

Tanya J.

When I read Megan’s writings, everything turned around. I suddenly felt like I was not a freak, and my feelings of anger, sorrow, and fear were a healthy response to what had happened to me. Suddenly, I felt like a healthy griever.

Kathleen Arbetter, 5 star amazon review

Grief support and understanding that is heartfelt, straightforward, and wise.

Jack Kornfield, author of A Path with Heart

Like Virgil, Megan is a guide through hell. Like Virgil, Megan points out a way, not the way, but a way, offering those in the mad turmoil of grief a few things to hold onto. She’s a courageous teacher. If you are in the grip of grief, reach for this book.

Mark Nepo, author of Awakening

Some things cannot be fixed. Acknowledgement isn't just the best medicine we have - sometimes it's the only medicine we have.

Megan Devine

I bought this wonderful guided grief journal and it is the best thing I’ve done in my grief journey. It feels just like having a personal daily talk with Megan herself.


There is nothing in this world that can fix the unfixable. Reading and working though the journal helps me feel less alone. I would give this 100 stars if I could.

S. Spangler

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is grieving. Megan, thank you for this amazing journal you have no idea how big of an impact you've made on my life.

Michelle McG

Giving this as a gift?

Awesome! We suggest giving this (or any resource) with a note that conveys a supportive message, rather than an expectant one. For example, "may this journal help you feel supported inside your grief," rather than "hope this helps you find closure!"  Seems fiddly, but phrasing makes a difference. 

How To Carry cover shadow 1

Now in additional languages!

Sellers vary. Find the edition you're looking for by entering the translated title in your favorite search engine.

We can make things better even when they can't be made right.