It's Ok that You're Not Ok

Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.

It’s OK That You’re Not OK isn’t your typical book on loss. It’s a whole new way to look at grief – and love.

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It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people & those who love them - so that's everyone.

How to manage grief: Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety
Why well-meaning advice, grief therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often makes it harder for those living with grief
Beyond the stages of grief: the real symptoms of grief (and what to do about them)
How to help the people you love— what's normal & when to worry
Plus checklists & practical suggestions for supporting yourself (and others!) through the grieving process

About
Megan Devine

Psychotherapist Megan Devine became one of the most trusted experts on grief the hard way: by surviving sudden, accidental death. She's recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief, with millions of people gaining insight - and skills! - through her books, social media, viral videos, consultancy work, and her podcast, It's OK that You're Not OK. Her work has appeared in GQ, Harvard Business Review, Washington Post, New York Times, Stanford University, Marketplace, and in the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.

It’s OK That You’re Not OK is the book I’ve been waiting for for 30 years—the one I can recommend to any newly bereaved parent, widow, widower, or adult grieving a death.

Donna Schuurman, Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families

It's a very human book, full of grace, permission to feel, and written in a way that it does not come off as one of those 'self-help' books. It was a hard book to put down because it brought so much comfort.

Rebecca F, 5 star amazon review

Our current cultural norms surrounding death render us incapable of dealing with grief authentically and result in unknowingly causing more hurt and suffering to not only ourselves, but the people we care about most. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is the perfect how-to manual to help heal and support ourselves, each other, and our death-avoidant society.

Sarah Chavez, executive director of the Order of the Good Death

Grief support and understanding that is heartfelt, straightforward, and wise.

Jack Kornfield, author of A Path with Heart

Like Virgil, Megan is a guide through hell. Like Virgil, Megan points out a way, not the way, but a way, offering those in the mad turmoil of grief a few things to hold onto. She’s a courageous teacher. If you are in the grip of grief, reach for this book.

Mark Nepo, author of Awakening

Some things cannot be fixed. Acknowledgement isn't just the best medicine we have - sometimes it's the only medicine we have.

Megan Devine

Audio Book

Grief impacts reading comprehension.

Struggling to get through a paragraph, let alone a whole book? It's OK that You're Not OK is available in audio format.

The guide you need for the life you didn't want.

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