Some things cannot be fixed. But they can be carried.
This journal will help you figure out how.
Building on her best selling book It’s OK that You’re Not OK, Megan Devine brings you her new illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed.
Being allowed to tell the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act. How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed lets you to tell your whole story, without the need to tack on a happy ending where there isn’t one.
Grief is a natural response to death and loss — it’s not an illness to be cured or a problem to be solved. This journal contains no clichés, timetables, or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move on” or put your loss behind you. Instead, you’ll find encouragement, self-care exercises, and daily tools to help you manage and explore your grief. Just as with It’s OK that You’re Not OK, this interactive journal has handy tools to help educate friends and family on how best to support you in your grief.
Here’s some of the stuff you’ll find inside:
- Writing prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak
- On-the-spot practices for tough situations—like grocery store trips, sleepless nights, grief landmines, and being the “awkward guest”
- The art of healthy distraction and self-care
- What you can do when you worry that “moving on” means “letting go”
- Practical advice for fielding the dreaded “How are you really?” question
- What it means to find meaning in your loss
- How to hold joy and grief at the same time
- Tear-and-share resources to help you educate friends and allies
- The “Griever’s Bill of Rights,” and much more
Your grief, like your love, belongs to you. No one has the right to dictate, judge, or dismiss what is yours to live. How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed is a journal and everyday companion to help you enter a conversation with your grief, find your own truth, and live into the life you didn’t ask for — but is here nonetheless. Order your copy now.
Want to see what others have created using the journal? Click on the images below, or click here for a full gallery.
Facing your grief can feel more than a bit overwhelming. Would some company help? Join me for a 4 week bookclub starting in June, in collaboration with my friends at EOL. All the information right here. And if you start your own book club, let us know! Tag us @refugeingrief and use #griefjournalbookclub on social.
More About Megan Devine
Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.
Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It’s OK that You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand, and her other best-known work: the animated “how to help a grieving friend” video distilling a complex issue into simple, actionable steps in just over four (adorable) minutes. Gaining over 35 million views in its first few months, the animation is now used in training programs all around the world. Her work has been translated into 15 languages, and is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and Bitch Magazine. Her latest collaborative project, Speaking Grief, is out now from PBS.
Help Us Help Others
Gun violence, terrorism, severe weather events, and community-wide public health issues aren’t new, but we’re certainly experiencing these with new intensity. Join Sounds True and the entire RIG team in donating cases of Megan’s first book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, and the new journal, How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed to communities reeling from large-scale loss and grief. So far, we’ve sent hundreds of books to communities in the US and around the world. Together, we can do more.
In the face of such widespread grief, it’s hard to know what to do. In addition to writing your elected officials, giving blood, and advocating for change in your chosen arenas, you can help the RIG team deliver grief support directly to communities affected by violence or disaster. Donate to the #disasteroutreach fund by clicking the button below. You’ll have a chance to tell us where you’d like your donation allocated – to the book fund, or to the RIG scholarship fund – when you check out.
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