Everything we offer is designed to help you survive what has been asked of you, or help you support the people you love. If you need a place to start, I recommend the Writing Your Grief course. It’s the best place for companionship and connection in your grief. If you know you want to talk to me directly, click right here.
Things to do first
infographics and cheat sheets
These two infographics walk you through the basic things you need to know. 8 Simple Rules for Impossible Times is for those living in the early days of grief. Do This/Not That is a handy cheat sheet for support people. Each one will tell you what you need to understand, know, and — most importantly — DO to help you get through today.
8 Simple Rules for Impossible Times – Download Printable PDF
Do This/Not That – Download Printable PDF
a note: these images, like all the work on this site, are © Refuge in Grief. Share with proper attribution.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK
Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand
This best-selling book isn’t your typical book on loss. It’s a whole new way to look at grief – and love. Get it for yourself, get it for those you love.
Writing Your Grief
the original 30 day writing course
The Writing Your Grief course has helped 1000s of people survive their early days of grief and beyond. It’s more than a simple writing course. It’s a community. It’s a lifeline.
There’s simply no other grief-focused writing course that will be as supportive – and encouraging – of the truth of your grief as you see it.
Writing Your Grief: solo edition
30 day self-guided writing course
The original 30 day course is amazing – the prompts plus the support of the wider community make the whole thing really special. But maybe you’d rather write on your own. Read More
When you purchase the solo-course, you’ll get the same prompt-a-day for 30 days as the original course. The prompts will allude to what’s happening in the group, but there’s no group page and no community support. It’s just you and the page. You can start whenever you’re ready.
And if you decide you want to go through the course again, but with a community by your side, you can always come back to the original. (check out the course description here – same course, just without the community.)
What’s art got to do with it?
a starter workbook for exploring grief
We’ve adapted a section of the book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, to let you play around with art and writing exercises that connect you with your grief in different ways. It’s a great way to dip your toe into creative practices without needing to go full on paints and easel. Read More
The Grief Experiment
an audio book for early grief
One part grief experiment, one part practical guidebook, this audio book is designed to help you find ways to bear the life you’re in – even when that life holds unbearable pain. It’s the extra voice in a too quiet room.
Special things for alumni
the secret Family of After courses
Looking for all the cool courses and events for Writing Your Grief Alumni? You’ll need to have the password to access this stuff. If you’re alumni, that password is in your email. Not alum? Come on in. We’ve got room for you.