Don’t Clean Up! (and other tips)

Wait! Before you tidy up for someone, check this first.


One of the best ways to support a grieving person is to offer to help with everyday tasks and chores. Those mundane things can feel completely overwhelming to people dealing with loss. But before you do anything that's irreversible, ask for permission first.

Here are some examples: Before you do laundry, tidy a room, wash the dishes, or anything else that's irreversible - ask, "Is there anything in this room you would rather I not touch?" 

For more tips on how to help a grieving friend or family member, check the supporter resource collection. Megan’s first book, It’s OK that You’re Not OK is a great resource for learning what not to say - and what to do instead. 

This video is a clip from the documentary SPEAKING GRIEF, now available to watch at the Speaking Grief Resource Hub. Talking about grief is important, but it isn't always easy. Get those conversations started by sharing this video with the people in your life. See the whole collection of Speaking Grief clips on our YouTube channel

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