The Reality of Loss

Grief is a disorienting time. So much no longer makes sense, and even simple things can feel complicated.


Early grief is largely this: trying to absorb something that cannot possibly be happening. 

Living with grief is not how you thought it would be. Time has stopped. Nothing feels real. There is no place this loss has not touched. Platitudes and cheerleading solve nothing. Telling the truth about grief is the only way forward: your loss is exactly as bad as you think it is.⁣ 

This video is an excerpt from the audio version of It's OK that You’re Not OK.

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Want a judgment free place to explore your losses? We strongly recommend the Writing Your Grief self-guided course. More than 10,000 people have used the prompts to tell the truth about their grief... and the page never argues with you. Come see

We can make things better, even when they can't be made right.