How many times have you heard some variation of “I’m here if you need anything” or “call me if you need anything,”? These vague, open-ended offers of help are usually followed by radio silence – which happens for any number of reasons – leaving the grieving person unsupported. The problem here is, identifying your needs…
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I don’t have the energy to educate friends and family about how to really support me. Am I normal?
Grief is a profoundly exhausting experience. Do you find yourself dealing with people, including people who love you dearly, who keeping doing or saying things that aren’t helpful, but you simply don’t have the energy to say so, let alone to try teaching them about what would actually help? Feeling exhausted by trying to educate…
I avoid books and other things that make me feel too much. Am I normal?
Grief affects so many things in day-to-day life. Are there books, movies, tv shows, music, or other things that you actively avoice because you’re afraid they’ll make you feel too much? Is that normal? Avoiding books (and other media) that make you feel too much is #perfectlynormal in grief. We often hear the same thing from…
Join our virtual book club for grievers with Megan Devine, starting tomorrow, Monday June 21st
I know a lot of you now have my new guided grief journal in your hands or on its way to you. (I love seeing your photos of the book! ♥️) I also know that, even when you have the book in your hands, a lot of you are feeling kind of scared or overwhelmed…
How do you know when it’s the right time to make a hard decision?
There’s so much unsolicited advice and opinion floating around the grief world, it’s easy to lose track of what you actually want for yourself. Many people write to me wondering when is the “right time” to… …remove wedding rings? …repurpose someone’s bedroom or office? …clean out a closets, cupboards, or the fridge? …stop referring to…
Have the new grief journal but don’t know where to start? Join our virtual book club for grievers with Megan Devine.
I know a lot of you now have my new guided grief journal in your hands or on its way to you. (I love seeing your photos of the book! ♥️) I also know that, even when you have the book in your hands, a lot of you are feeling kind of scared or overwhelmed…
Grieving people are “looking forward” to different things once the pandemic eases
As it begins to seem like maybe, possibly the world is going to start to reopen and life will begin to move forward again this summer, lots of people are talking about what they’re looking forward to. This is a complicated topic for grieving folks, many of whom are meeting this big news with all…
When Time Passes Too Fast (& they didn’t die ‘last year’ anymore)
The new year has only just begun, but it already feels like time is moving too fast. Unless I’m focused on the pandemic, then it’s all moving too slowly. That’s one of the odd things about time – the tick-tick-tick of seconds is the same for everyone, but the perceived pacing of those seconds? That’s…